Reflecting On The Past to Plan For The Year Ahead

Here is an ‘old but gold’ coaching exercise that we often use at Barefoot towards the end of the year to reflect on our accomplishments, disappointments, and learning.  We hope you will enjoy using it for yourselves, with your teams and with your coaching clients. The exercise comes with acknowledgement to Jinny Ditzler, author of ‘Your Best Year Yet’.

Part One – What did you accomplish in the last year?

“Increasing your self-esteem is easy.  Simply do good things and remember that you did them” 

John-Roger

Notice what you did achieve – everything counts, little and big.  What were some of your finest moments?  Get beyond the headlines – get in touch with good news.  Re-balance your perception of what you have achieved because almost without exception we tend to have negative thoughts or focus on what we didn’t do!

Remember this simple cycle of achievement:

  1. Decide/start
  2. Do/Act
  3. Complete/Finish
  4. Acknowledge/Praise

Part Two – OK, let’s get it over with – what disappointments did you experience in the last year?

“What happens, happens. The only thing we can control is how we respond to what happens to us.”

Jinny Ditzler

Looking at disappointments and letting them go can move you to a more resourceful place and a happier state. Clear the negative emotions associated with them out of your mind and leave space for new thoughts and experiences. You can’t change the past, only its effect on you. 

Ask yourself these questions: 

  • Can I forgive? 
  • Who would I be without this thought? 
  • What did I learn? The only real value in the disappointments of the past year is in the lessons.

Part Three What Did You Learn?

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves”

Carl Jung

Look at your accomplishments and your disappointments and consider what you have learned from them over the past year:

  • What did I do well?
  • What behaviour/attitude worked for me?
  • What support has helped me?
  • What resources have I used?
  • What didn’t work?
  • What lesson did I need to learn?
  • Have I learned it yet?

 

Now consider:

  • What changes do I need to make in the way I behave or think?
  • What advice do I have for myself
  • Which behaviours do I need to dial up or dial down?
  • What support do I need to make these changes?

Become a detached observer on your life and keep asking yourself: What do I see? What do I like about what I see? What do I need to do differently and how would that give me a different outcome?

Now choose 3 lessons which you can turn into personal guidelines for this year. Think how different life could be for you if you really commit to following these guidelines.

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